#42: Suzanna Mathews – Cougar-Cub Relationships

Using the Term “Cougar”
To start this episode, Suzanna talks about the negative connotations surrounding the title “cougar.” There are considerable allusions to predatory behavior when the term is brought up. Of course, Suzanna was well aware of this and after much deliberation, she decided to still include the oft-controversial “cougar” in the subtitle of her book, Revising Mrs. Robinson: Navigating Cougar-Cub Dating and Relationships. To find out the reason why tune into this very fascinating episode. Continue reading “#42: Suzanna Mathews – Cougar-Cub Relationships”

#39: Heather [Personal Story] – Sexual Trauma & Awakening

A personal story of trauma and awakening

Listen to the story of Heather and her traumatic experiences which led to her transformative journey in her own life.

She grew up feeling like an outsider with feelings of inadequacy. Hear Heather describe her struggles that initially presented in her young life and how these difficulties led her into risk-taking situations to fit in. Continue reading “#39: Heather [Personal Story] – Sexual Trauma & Awakening”

#38: Dr. Steven Davidson – Pornography

Pornography – the good and the bad

Listen to the discussion of the role of Erotica and Pornography in a relationship and the positive and negative impacts.

Defining Pornography

What is the definition of pornography? Listen as Steven succinctly describes pornography and erotica and the overlapping interpretations of arousing materials. Hear the use and role of sex in regularly available cultural artifacts like magazines and videos. Continue reading “#38: Dr. Steven Davidson – Pornography”

#35: [Personal Story] Marina – Journey of Liberation

A personal story of sexual liberation

In this episode, I talk to Marina, who shares her personal journey from struggles with her self-image and a painful first sexual experience, to finally feeling liberated with a happier sex life.

The first time: a painful experience

As a teenager, Marina tells us that she struggled with self-image and was therefore excited when, at age sixteen, a “cool kid” from another school showed interest in her. Continue reading “#35: [Personal Story] Marina – Journey of Liberation”

#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz – The Orgasm Gap

Becoming Cliterate

Dr. Laurie shares the reason behind why she wrote her book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It. As a professor to over 150 students a year, she shares the influence her undergrad students had on this book.

Two factors that ultimately influenced her was the massive orgasm gap in men and women and the loss of clitoral knowledge. Listen as she tackles the miseducation that society is subjected to and uncovers some shocking orgasm statistics you don’t want to miss. Continue reading “#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz – The Orgasm Gap”

#32: Beth Liebling – Darling Way

The Store: Darling Way

In this episode, Beth talks about how she started and founded the Darling Way after her 22-year marriage ended with a divorce. She shares how her shop started after an awful experience buying a lingerie for herself. Her store’s concept is about embracing the fact that it’s okay to be silly, fun, and excited or just a light-hearted approach to the serious topic of sexy fun. Continue reading “#32: Beth Liebling – Darling Way”

#30: Tamara Powell – Polyamory

Polyamory – one version of consensual non-monogamy.

There are certainly plenty of people that choose an open relationship of one sort or another. Even though they're committed to each other, but by agreement, they are non-monogamous.

Often what we're referring to is people that have been committed and decide to change the arrangement and include other people in one way or another. Continue reading “#30: Tamara Powell – Polyamory”

#28: Brodie Welch – Holistic Approaches to Libido

Today’s episode features Brodie Welch, a Chinese Medicine expert who helps us to recognize that from a Chinese medicine perspective, everything is energy, and sexual energy is an important subset of our total sum of energy reserves.

We cover how to apply all areas of the Chinese medicinal branches, the original body/mind/spirit medicine, into our lives and daily choices, “talking” and working with our organ systems to create balance. Continue reading “#28: Brodie Welch – Holistic Approaches to Libido”

#27: [Personal Story] Jenn – Trauma & Infertility, Fortunate Healing

Today’s personal story features Jenn, a 47-year-old woman who has undergone more than her fair share of stressful events during her life. From being molested as a child and losing her virginity to date rape, to facing repeated infertility issues, miscarriages and finally a hysterectomy.

We cover how all these events affected her relationship with herself, as well as her intimate relationships with others. Continue reading “#27: [Personal Story] Jenn – Trauma & Infertility, Fortunate Healing”

#26: Melissa Walker – Healing Our Sexual Fragmentation

Correction:

I mis-spoke in my introduction to the episode. Melissa is not yet certified as a sex therapist. I apologize for any confusion.

Sexual Fragmentation – what is it and how does it show up in sex therapy?

Tune in today to learn about how Melissa defines fragmentation as it applies to sex therapy work, as she talks about the competing needs we all have within us.

How do we get fragmented?

Melissa answers this question, discussing how our sexual and social development from a young age is impacted by loved ones and society, often creating a wedge between our minds and bodies. Continue reading “#26: Melissa Walker – Healing Our Sexual Fragmentation”

#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn – The Importance of Self-Care

What is self-care?

Tune in to hear Stacy’s definition of self-care: what it looks like and how it relates to all areas of life, not only with regards to physical health but mental and emotional health as well. Stacy reveals what percentage of health care issues come back to self-care, and talks about its relevance to everything from dental care and medical care to therapy. Continue reading “#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn – The Importance of Self-Care”

#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

What is pelvic floor physical therapy?

Dr. Fiacco kicks off by telling us exactly what pelvic floor physical therapy is; explaining about the basic musculature of the pelvic area and what kind of health issues can stem from this region, including some unexpected areas of the body that may present with problems that actually arise from the pelvis. Continue reading “#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy”

#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm

Frank was raised in a conservative home that placed a noose of fear and shame around sex. After a decade of fantasizing about sex, Frank married in his late 20’s and recalls the awkwardness about it. Sexuality was a very taboo topic in Frank's life and this carried into both his marriages.

Nancy had issues of her own as well. Being a victim of sexual abuse from the age of 5, Nancy felt dirty and ashamed as a child. Her first sexual experience made this worse and led to her having a reputation for being a tease and mastering manipulation to maintain her power. Continue reading “#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm”

#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder – Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete

Social Media is making sex obsolete.

Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a shocking statistic that reveals the drop in the sexual interaction between people. He unpacks his very interesting theory on why this is. In this episode, you will hear about why people have sex and the influence of social media and technology on their motivation to engage sexually.
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#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex

How do you talk to kids about sex?

In today’s episode, Robin LaCross and I discuss talking about sex to kids. Robin shares the childhood experiences that drew her to her purpose. She reveals the impact of a book about natural family planning, that raised many questions for her.

Her curiosity led her to find out more about fertility and the female body. Robin tells us about how she shared this info and what led her to the realization that she needed to be talking to moms as the gatekeepers to these conversations with kids. Continue reading “#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex”

#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion

How important is passion?

The place of Love across cultures

In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge.

The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship.
Continue reading “#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion”