The Sexual Avoidance Cycle is far more common than many would believe, and I talk about this situation, what causes it and perpetuates its continuance.
I also answer the first of my listener questions during this “Soapbox” episode where I get to help you understand this important topic. Continue reading “#40: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Sexual Avoidance Cycle”
Difficult conversations as an opportunity?
Challenge as an opportunity? Listen as Lara describes the context of conflict. She discusses how the components of assumption, judgment and expectation lead to a reaction. Continue reading “#37: Lara Currie – Difficult Conversations”
Frank was raised in a conservative home that placed a noose of fear and shame around sex. After a decade of fantasizing about sex, Frank married in his late 20’s and recalls the awkwardness about it. Sexuality was a very taboo topic in Frank's life and this carried into both his marriages.
Nancy had issues of her own as well. Being a victim of sexual abuse from the age of 5, Nancy felt dirty and ashamed as a child. Her first sexual experience made this worse and led to her having a reputation for being a tease and mastering manipulation to maintain her power. Continue reading “#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm”
Social Media is making sex obsolete.
Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a shocking statistic that reveals the drop in the sexual interaction between people. He unpacks his very interesting theory on why this is. In this episode, you will hear about why people have sex and the influence of social media and technology on their motivation to engage sexually.
Continue reading “#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder – Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete”
How do you talk to kids about sex?
In today’s episode, Robin LaCross and I discuss talking about sex to kids. Robin shares the childhood experiences that drew her to her purpose. She reveals the impact of a book about natural family planning, that raised many questions for her.
Her curiosity led her to find out more about fertility and the female body. Robin tells us about how she shared this info and what led her to the realization that she needed to be talking to moms as the gatekeepers to these conversations with kids. Continue reading “#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex”
How important is passion?
The place of Love across cultures
In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge.
The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship.
Continue reading “#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion”
Men's sexual health concerns often stem from the pressure of expectations
In today’s episode, Jessa and Jennifer Valli talk about men’s sexual health concerns and dysfunctions (men being defined as people who have been raised male and who have a penis) and approaches to make sex easier and stress-free. Continue reading “#17: Jennifer Valli – Men's Sexual Concerns and Solutions”
Vino & Vulvas – A community conversation about sex
Today I am delighted to have Heather Edwards, who has been a pelvic physical therapist for 14 years and is currently completing the University of Michigan’s Certificate Program in Sex Counseling and Education.
In 2015 she founded Vino & Vulvas, an inclusive, public, monthly event that connects sexual health providers with community members through educational panel discussions about sexuality. Continue reading “#16: Heather Edwards – Vino and Vulvas”
Out of control sexual behavior or sex addiction
Are you concerned about your own sexual behavior in relation to your values?Do you wonder if your sexual behavior is out of control? Are you or someone you love worried that you have a sex addiction? You cannot afford to miss this episode with guest Marc Gilmartin. Marc is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor who unpacks how to identify if you have a sexual behavior problem and how to deal with it. Continue reading “#14: Marc Gilmartin – Out of Control Sexual Behavior & Erotic Conflict”
I'm excited about the topic for this episode. We're going to be talking about both Masculine and Feminine Energy. I'm talking about this because it's relevant to sex and to our lives in general. Continue reading “#13: Jeni Dahn – Energy and Sex”
I'm revisiting a topic that we talked about in a previous episode, which is menopause This time it's not so much from the medical standpoint or a provider's standpoint. It's more about the invisibility that tends to happen in that time of life: the lack of information, the lack of support, the lack of understanding and how isolated and alone women can feel as they're getting into their midlife.
Women can almost feel as though they've fallen through the cracks at this point. Continue reading “#12: Jill Angelo – Genneve, Support for Women in Midlife and Menopause Solutions”
Well, the last episode of my podcast was about pregnancy and sexuality, and it seemed to make sense to go right into the next obvious topic, which is postpartum sexuality.
Talk about a lot of change to adjust to! You've got not only the physical impact of carrying and birthing a baby, but you've got the emotional, the psychological, and the relational impacts as well. Life is not the same once you've had a baby. It's a complex time with a lot of changes and challenges. Continue reading “#11: Tammy Senn – Postpartum Sexuality, Listen to Your Body”
Today's topic is pregnancy and sexuality. It's just not talked about very often, and if you have been pregnant or if you have been a partner with somebody that's pregnant, you may have noticed that the doctors often don't ask or talk about sex. Continue reading “#10: Aleece Fosnight – Pregnancy and Sexuality, How to Enhance and What to Avoid”
I often hear from clients about how much they struggle when they're different from each other. In the beginning, we were attracted to this other way of being. We were interested because this person was so different from us. But what intrigued us in the beginning is what often drives us nuts later in the relationship. So even though opposites attract, they can run into misunderstanding and frustration later. Continue reading “#8: Jessica Butts – Do Opposites Attract? How Different Personality Types Affect Your Sex Life”
So why is today's show about sex therapy? Well, because I'm a certified sex therapist and I know that a lot of people listening don't know what that means. There is confusion about what sex therapy is and what a sex therapist does. Continue reading “#6: Sallie Foley – Sex Therapy: What is it?”
Tantra offers a lot of gifts. It can help you be present. It can increase your sense of connection. It can lead you to a greater understanding of who you are in your physical body. Continue reading “#5: Matthias Rose – Tantra, A Beautiful Integration of Personal Strength, Sexual Power, and Emotional Connection”
What are we talking about? Men who have sex with men, have done it in the past or who are interested in it, but still identify as straight or mostly straight. However, their behavior or their interest makes their partner wonder about their sexuality. Continue reading “#4: Dr. Joe Kort – “Is My Husband Gay?” | Male Sexual Fluidity”
Shame. We're not born with it but it is given to us at a very early age. And we unwittingly pass it along to others. Continue reading “#3: Parke Burgess – The Virus Known As Shame”
Sexual changes throughout life are not always looked at as moments of grief. But, they certainly are and even if they seem small, they can add up to bigger, more powerful moments. Continue reading “#2: Edy Nathan – Grief, Sex, and Life”
Consent is all over the news right now. Or, at least, lack of consent is all over the news. From politicians to movie stars, people are being accused of sexual assault and harassment. This makes the conversation about consent all the more timely. Continue reading “#1: Sar Surmick – Sexual Consent, Did They Say “No?””