The Sexual Avoidance Cycle is far more common than many would believe, and I talk about this situation, what causes it and perpetuates its continuance.
I also answer the first of my listener questions during this “Soapbox” episode where I get to help you understand this important topic. Continue reading “#40: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Sexual Avoidance Cycle”
Pornography – the good and the bad
Listen to the discussion of the role of Erotica and Pornography in a relationship and the positive and negative impacts.
What is the definition of pornography? Listen as Steven succinctly describes pornography and erotica and the overlapping interpretations of arousing materials. Hear the use and role of sex in regularly available cultural artifacts like magazines and videos. Continue reading “#38: Dr. Steven Davidson – Pornography”
Evolutionary Psychology and Sex
In this episode, Rebecca tells us about Evolutionary Psychology, examining our roles and interactions through a biological and historical lens. Listen in as she compares our human proclivities to our great ape relatives. Continue reading “#36: Rebecca Coffey – Evolution and Sexual Behavior”
A personal story of sexual liberation
In this episode, I talk to Marina, who shares her personal journey from struggles with her self-image and a painful first sexual experience, to finally feeling liberated with a happier sex life.
The first time: a painful experience
As a teenager, Marina tells us that she struggled with self-image and was therefore excited when, at age sixteen, a “cool kid” from another school showed interest in her. Continue reading “#35: [Personal Story] Marina – Journey of Liberation”
History of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy Retailer
Listen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree. Continue reading “#34: Katie Zvolerin – Adam & Eve”
Dr. Laurie shares the reason behind why she wrote her book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It. As a professor to over 150 students a year, she shares the influence her undergrad students had on this book.
Two factors that ultimately influenced her was the massive orgasm gap in men and women and the loss of clitoral knowledge. Listen as she tackles the miseducation that society is subjected to and uncovers some shocking orgasm statistics you don’t want to miss. Continue reading “#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz – The Orgasm Gap”
The Store: Darling Way
In this episode, Beth talks about how she started and founded the Darling Way after her 22-year marriage ended with a divorce. She shares how her shop started after an awful experience buying a lingerie for herself. Her store’s concept is about embracing the fact that it’s okay to be silly, fun, and excited or just a light-hearted approach to the serious topic of sexy fun. Continue reading “#32: Beth Liebling – Darling Way”
Recovering from people pleasing
Today's guest is sharing her story of claiming her story, rewriting her story, figuring out which parts she wants in, and which parts no longer serve her. Continue reading “#31: [Personal Story] Anca – A Recovering People Pleaser”
Welcome to Better Sex. Today we are covering an important and pervasive topic. We're going to talk about female sexual pain, a woman's sexual pain. Way too many people struggle with painful conditions and most of them don't know what to do about it. Continue reading “#29: Maegan Megginson – Female Sexual Pain”
Today’s episode features Brodie Welch, a Chinese Medicine expert who helps us to recognize that from a Chinese medicine perspective, everything is energy, and sexual energy is an important subset of our total sum of energy reserves.
We cover how to apply all areas of the Chinese medicinal branches, the original body/mind/spirit medicine, into our lives and daily choices, “talking” and working with our organ systems to create balance. Continue reading “#28: Brodie Welch – Holistic Approaches to Libido”
Amanda’s interest in menstrual health began as early as her childhood. Today she passionately shares her wisdom about how women should have knowledge of how their bodies work and, with this, feel empowered to talk about menstruation and sex without feeling ashamed. Continue reading “#25: Amanda Laird – Menstruation and Sexual Health”
What is self-care?
Tune in to hear Stacy’s definition of self-care: what it looks like and how it relates to all areas of life, not only with regards to physical health but mental and emotional health as well. Stacy reveals what percentage of health care issues come back to self-care, and talks about its relevance to everything from dental care and medical care to therapy. Continue reading “#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn – The Importance of Self-Care”
What is pelvic floor physical therapy?
Dr. Fiacco kicks off by telling us exactly what pelvic floor physical therapy is; explaining about the basic musculature of the pelvic area and what kind of health issues can stem from this region, including some unexpected areas of the body that may present with problems that actually arise from the pelvis. Continue reading “#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy”
Sex in the elder years
In today's episode, we look at sex and sexuality in the elderly. It is a common misconception that people are no longer sexually active as they grow older and Dr. Flores will be sharing her thoughts on this with us so enjoy the insights! Continue reading “#22: Dr. Renee Flores – Sex and Sexuality in the Elderly”
Frank was raised in a conservative home that placed a noose of fear and shame around sex. After a decade of fantasizing about sex, Frank married in his late 20’s and recalls the awkwardness about it. Sexuality was a very taboo topic in Frank's life and this carried into both his marriages.
Nancy had issues of her own as well. Being a victim of sexual abuse from the age of 5, Nancy felt dirty and ashamed as a child. Her first sexual experience made this worse and led to her having a reputation for being a tease and mastering manipulation to maintain her power. Continue reading “#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm”
Social Media is making sex obsolete.
Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a shocking statistic that reveals the drop in the sexual interaction between people. He unpacks his very interesting theory on why this is. In this episode, you will hear about why people have sex and the influence of social media and technology on their motivation to engage sexually.
Continue reading “#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder – Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete”
How do you talk to kids about sex?
In today’s episode, Robin LaCross and I discuss talking about sex to kids. Robin shares the childhood experiences that drew her to her purpose. She reveals the impact of a book about natural family planning, that raised many questions for her.
Her curiosity led her to find out more about fertility and the female body. Robin tells us about how she shared this info and what led her to the realization that she needed to be talking to moms as the gatekeepers to these conversations with kids. Continue reading “#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex”
How important is passion?
The place of Love across cultures
In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge.
The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship.
Continue reading “#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion”
Men's sexual health concerns often stem from the pressure of expectations
In today’s episode, Jessa and Jennifer Valli talk about men’s sexual health concerns and dysfunctions (men being defined as people who have been raised male and who have a penis) and approaches to make sex easier and stress-free. Continue reading “#17: Jennifer Valli – Men's Sexual Concerns and Solutions”
Vino & Vulvas – A community conversation about sex
Today I am delighted to have Heather Edwards, who has been a pelvic physical therapist for 14 years and is currently completing the University of Michigan’s Certificate Program in Sex Counseling and Education.
In 2015 she founded Vino & Vulvas, an inclusive, public, monthly event that connects sexual health providers with community members through educational panel discussions about sexuality. Continue reading “#16: Heather Edwards – Vino and Vulvas”
Triumph after sexual trauma
This is the first in a new series of episodes where I will be talking to real people sharing real stories.
On this episode, I am joined by Alli, a recovering overachiever who has learned to let go of society's expectations and step into alignment with her true self. Continue reading “#15: [Personal Story] Alli – Sexual Trauma”
Out of control sexual behavior or sex addiction
Are you concerned about your own sexual behavior in relation to your values?Do you wonder if your sexual behavior is out of control? Are you or someone you love worried that you have a sex addiction? You cannot afford to miss this episode with guest Marc Gilmartin. Marc is a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor who unpacks how to identify if you have a sexual behavior problem and how to deal with it. Continue reading “#14: Marc Gilmartin – Out of Control Sexual Behavior & Erotic Conflict”
I'm excited about the topic for this episode. We're going to be talking about both Masculine and Feminine Energy. I'm talking about this because it's relevant to sex and to our lives in general. Continue reading “#13: Jeni Dahn – Energy and Sex”
I'm revisiting a topic that we talked about in a previous episode, which is menopause This time it's not so much from the medical standpoint or a provider's standpoint. It's more about the invisibility that tends to happen in that time of life: the lack of information, the lack of support, the lack of understanding and how isolated and alone women can feel as they're getting into their midlife.
Women can almost feel as though they've fallen through the cracks at this point. Continue reading “#12: Jill Angelo – Genneve, Support for Women in Midlife and Menopause Solutions”
Well, the last episode of my podcast was about pregnancy and sexuality, and it seemed to make sense to go right into the next obvious topic, which is postpartum sexuality.
Talk about a lot of change to adjust to! You've got not only the physical impact of carrying and birthing a baby, but you've got the emotional, the psychological, and the relational impacts as well. Life is not the same once you've had a baby. It's a complex time with a lot of changes and challenges. Continue reading “#11: Tammy Senn – Postpartum Sexuality, Listen to Your Body”